Kobe. Wedding Rings. November 17th , 2017.
Think about this scenario. Your invitations are sent and you`ve crossed all your Ts and dotted every last I out there. It`s the day of the wedding and while your photographer is dutifully spreading out that adorable hand-calligraphed invitation suite, you glance over his shoulder and notice for the first time that the address for the church is listed incorrectly (even though you swear you double- and even triple-checked for errors). To make sure each guest that RSVP`d "yes" to your wedding gets to the right church on time you frantically post on Facebook the correct address of the church and hope it reaches everyone. That`s not quite the best way to do it. Putting your plans on Facebook means that some people who aren`t invited could see and feel left out—and let`s face it, your great-uncle Charlie hasn`t touched a computer since the `90s. If you want word to spread—fast—to the right people, having a communication plan makes everything easier. Here are a few easy-to-follow tips to come up with a wedding day communication plan.
If you don`t think they`d mesh with your crew, leave them off the list. Set honest expectations. What sort of a role do you want your wedding party to play? Is it important to you that they help to address wedding invites, shop for your day-of attire with you and attend all of the prewedding parties? Or will it be enough for them to wear what you choose and show up on your wedding day? If you want a very involved wedding party, it may not be the best idea to ask friends or family who live far away or have extremely hectic schedules. You may be setting yourself up for disappointment. Tip for the taking: For friends who can`t commit for whatever reason (they live out of town or are busy at work), let them in on just a few wedding prep activities, like an invitation stuffing party complete with wine and pizza. Include your brothers and sisters. Not to sound like your mom, but think about it: Even if you`re not particularly close to his sister or her brother, siblings are going to be around well past your 10-year anniversary, and chances are, you`ll become closer over the years. If you come from a big family and you can`t possibly include everyone, draw the line at teenagers. Instead, make them a part of the ceremony by asking them to pass out programs or seat guests. Tip for the taking: Traditionally, it`s ladies on one side and guys on the other, but feel free to break that rule and have them stand on either side of the aisle. Consider the size of your wedding. You can have as many (or few) bridesmaids and groomsmen as you like. The average wedding party size is four on either side. Use that as a guide when you decide. Depending on formality, go larger or smaller.
Think of a concise message your guests will understand quickly. No need for a lengthy explanation of what happened. Keep your message to guests short and to the point. All they need to know is that plans have changed for some reason or another, and what they should do in the meantime. Make sure your wedding website is accurate and up to date. Your wedding website will get tons of views leading up to your wedding, because people misplace invitations or forget to bring them along when they`re traveling. Make sure the main page of your site contains any new information guests should know and all addresses are accurate. Assemble a group who can be trusted to start a phone (or text) tree. You`ll want to delegate this kind of a task to a few members from each side of the family, so it spreads evenly and no relatives are left in the dark—especially those who aren`t likely to check your wedding website the day of. You`ll also want to assign the task to a few friends on both sides of your wedding party to notify all nonrelatives. Once they start spreading the word, and the people who heard from them spread it to everyone they know attending, word of mouth will have taken care of your little invitation snafu.
For a smaller wedding with around 50 to 60 guests, have no more than four, but for a larger wedding of, say, 150, you could go up to 12 if you really wanted. Just keep this in mind: More isn`t always merrier. The more attendants you have, the more details to organize —flattering tuxes or dresses, a bachelor or bachelorette party with 12 attendants who have busy schedules, wedding party gifts and so much more. Tip for the taking: If there are a lot of people you want to include in your wedding party but just can`t, give them other roles, like usher, ceremony reader or candlelighter. Call him the man of honor and her the best woman. Guys can stand with the bride and women can stand with the groom. It`s really up to you—what`s most important is that you include your favorite people, women and men. Tip for the taking: There are no hard-and-fast rules about how to dress them. You can dress your groomswomen in tuxedos or dresses (or even rompers), and your bridesmen can look just like the groomsmen or they can match their suits to the bridesmaid dresses. Just make sure they`re comfortable with whatever you want them to wear. Choose responsible honor attendants. The best honor attendants are friends who are responsible (since you`re going to rely on them for some big wedding planning tasks and to hold on to your expensive rings) and good at providing emotional support, because there just might be a few prewedding meltdowns. (It also helps if they`re super-fun, since they`ll be planning the bachelor and bachelorette parties.) Tip for the taking: If your best friend isn`t always the most dependable person, it`s perfectly okay to have two best men or maids of honor. Pick your unpredictable BFF and another friend you can rely on for the big, important duties. Don`t ask someone just because they asked you. Weddings are no time for quid pro quo. You don`t need to ask someone to be in your wedding because they asked you to be in their wedding. Don`t ask the college roommate you haven`t spoken to in five years just to return the favor. Tip for the taking: If they want to talk to you about why they aren`t in your wedding, be completely honest. Explain that it was a tough decision but you really felt like you should have the people you feel closest to at this point in your life standing up for you, and there are so many of those people (including him or her) that you had to leave out some very special ones.
Why It`s Hidden: Most hotels don`t factor in a welcome bag delivery fee when you block rooms. And they may fail to mention the rate unless you ask—and they`ll just add it to your final bill. They may even charge you a fee for holding the welcome bags if you drop them off before the guests arrive, so make sure to ask. The Cost: Up to $7 per bag. How to Avoid it: During the booking process, ask about the hotel`s policy on receiving and delivering welcome bags to guests` rooms. It may be free or cheaper if they hand the bags out at the counter as guests check in. Rental Transport. Why It`s Hidden: You`d assume the rental companies would include these extra fees in the per-item costs (do they honestly think you`re going to fit 150 Chiavari chars in your car?), but surprisingly they don`t. The Cost: From $50 up to more than $500. How to Avoid It: Ask the rental company what their shipping and packaging fees are up front—if the cost is too high for your budget, shop around a bit. You might actually save some money by renting items from a more expensive company that includes delivery costs at no extra charge. Taxes and Gratuities. Why It`s Hidden: Even though these aren`t exactly hidden—we all know there are taxes on almost everything and gratuities are expected for almost any service—most couples don`t think about how much they`ll end up owing during the planning process. The Cost: This will depend on the total amount of money you`re spending as well as the location of the event (taxes vary by state). How to Avoid It: There`s no getting around paying taxes, but paying the entire bill in one lump sum can help lower the overall price. A safe bet: Tack on an extra third of your total costs to your budget for tips and taxes. Cake Cutting and Corkage Fees.
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