Kobe. Wedding Rings. November 23rd , 2017.
Research other roles. You might need ushers to lead the guests to their seats at the ceremony, plus a few people to light candles and distribute programs. But there are a lot of other options as well. Maybe you have a musically inclined friend who would love to play something at the reception. Or what about that friend who is an amazing writer? Have them pen a poem or meaningful essay to share at your ceremony. Tip for the taking: Think twice before offering your friends obscure, not-so-needed positions, like guest book attendant. (Would you want to do that?) Most people would be happier with a VIP corsage and a reserved seat at the ceremony. Kids aren`t required. If there are no children you two feel particularly close to, you don`t need a flower girl and/or ring bearer. And if you have many children you want to include, feel free. Have three little flower girls instead of one and give them each their own basket of flower petals ( boys might enjoy throwing flower petals too!). Or have your two little ones walk down the aisle as pages. They can bear the ring, hold a keepsake or carry a "Here Comes the Bride" sign. Tip for the taking: Having an adults-only wedding? You can still have kids play their roles at the ceremony and not allow them at the reception. If you do that, consider setting up a room for kids with a babysitter during the reception and have some fun foods and activities planned.
Why It`s Hidden: If you use the cake or liquor provided by your reception site, the charge is typically wrapped into the cost. Going with an outside baker or your own wine can raise the price. Why? Because your venue`s workers are responsible for slicing and serving each piece, then cleaning the dishes—and this means more work for their staff. The Cost: From $2 to $5 per guest for the cake; from $1.50 to $3 for every bottle the staff opens. How to Avoid It: Be up front. Ask about cake cutting and corkage fees before you decide to go with an outside source for either. Cleanup and Breakdown Costs. Why It`s Hidden: Many couples spend so much time planning the actual day they forget to budget for what happens when it`s all over. The Cost: While a full-service venue won`t charge for these things, if you`re paying a flat fee to rent only the space, anticipate additional charges for garbage removal (up to $250) and cleaning (up to $500). And even most full-service venues require same-day setup and cleanup. So if you`re getting married on a weekend, expect to pay time and a half for labor, and if your party goes into the wee hours of the morning, you may face extra charges for late-night pickup and cleanup. How to Avoid It: Read your contract carefully—the setup and breakdown costs should be included in the labor charge. Non-Approved Professionals. Why It`s Hidden: Some venues require you to use caterers or florists from their preferred pros list—and tack on a fee if you don`t. The Cost: Usually an extra 20 percent or more. How to Avoid It: Stick to their list of preferred vendors, or choose a venue without one.
Consider Buying Your Ring and Your Bands Together. If you prefer to be surprised by the engagement ring, this may not work, but knowing what bands go with the engagement ring can help you make a decision. For example, if you have a unique engagement ring, you may want a simple, no-fuss band, whereas a simple engagement ring may call for the added sparkle of a diamond pavé band. Also think about how the rings fit together. If you`re planning on wearing your engagement and wedding ring side by side, 24/7, look for a contour or shadow band designed to interlock with the matching engagement ring. If you`re planning on wearing your wedding ring alone, you may want a more intricate style that will look great with or without your engagement ring. Talk to your jeweler about finding a band that works with your ring (some can even create both at the same time).
If they did, you might decide to go with simpler (read: cheaper) invites. The Cost: Oversize, uniquely shaped, heavy or bulky invitations can cost you about $2 each to mail. How to Avoid It: Skip the fancy boxed invitations and multilayer cards, which can bulk up quickly and cost a lot more than you bargained for. Wedding Dress Alterations and Steaming. Why It`s Hidden: Most stores don`t include alterations (or steaming) in the price of the wedding dress, and they`re not doing it for free—it can take up to three hours just to alter the bustier. The Cost: A simple hem can be less than $100, but completely rebuilding a bodice can send the price up to $500. How to Avoid It: Ask about what the store charges for every alteration you may need before purchasing the gown so you`re not blindsided by the extra costs. Overtime Fees. Why It`s Hidden: Your band, DJ, wedding photographer and videographer are booked for a certain amount of time, so if your wedding runs a little longer than you expected, they`ll charge per hour after they`ve reached the time specified in the contract. The Cost: Starting at $250 per hour (although some vendor`s per-hour overtime fees are more expensive than their typical per-hour charge). How to Avoid It: Factor in additional time for getting dressed and taking photos—that way, you can book your pros for a more realistic time frame. Get overtime costs in writing (they shouldn`t be more than 50 percent more per hour than the regular rate), so you`ll know what to expect if you decide to keep the party going. Welcome Bag Delivery.
For a smaller wedding with around 50 to 60 guests, have no more than four, but for a larger wedding of, say, 150, you could go up to 12 if you really wanted. Just keep this in mind: More isn`t always merrier. The more attendants you have, the more details to organize —flattering tuxes or dresses, a bachelor or bachelorette party with 12 attendants who have busy schedules, wedding party gifts and so much more. Tip for the taking: If there are a lot of people you want to include in your wedding party but just can`t, give them other roles, like usher, ceremony reader or candlelighter. Call him the man of honor and her the best woman. Guys can stand with the bride and women can stand with the groom. It`s really up to you—what`s most important is that you include your favorite people, women and men. Tip for the taking: There are no hard-and-fast rules about how to dress them. You can dress your groomswomen in tuxedos or dresses (or even rompers), and your bridesmen can look just like the groomsmen or they can match their suits to the bridesmaid dresses. Just make sure they`re comfortable with whatever you want them to wear. Choose responsible honor attendants. The best honor attendants are friends who are responsible (since you`re going to rely on them for some big wedding planning tasks and to hold on to your expensive rings) and good at providing emotional support, because there just might be a few prewedding meltdowns. (It also helps if they`re super-fun, since they`ll be planning the bachelor and bachelorette parties.) Tip for the taking: If your best friend isn`t always the most dependable person, it`s perfectly okay to have two best men or maids of honor. Pick your unpredictable BFF and another friend you can rely on for the big, important duties. Don`t ask someone just because they asked you. Weddings are no time for quid pro quo. You don`t need to ask someone to be in your wedding because they asked you to be in their wedding. Don`t ask the college roommate you haven`t spoken to in five years just to return the favor. Tip for the taking: If they want to talk to you about why they aren`t in your wedding, be completely honest. Explain that it was a tough decision but you really felt like you should have the people you feel closest to at this point in your life standing up for you, and there are so many of those people (including him or her) that you had to leave out some very special ones.
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